Live Long Enough and You’ll Become a Philosopher 0:00

Happiness Without Material Comfort Is Playing on Hard Mode 1:35

Happiness Is Not Science or Math 3:54

Happiness Is a Skill You Can Develop 5:22

Desire Is a Contract You Make to Be Unhappy 6:36

If You’re So Smart, Why Aren’t You Happy? 7:45

Being Unhappy Is Extremely Inefficient 10:37

Work the Least for It 12:23

The Modern Struggle Is Fighting Weaponized Addiction 14:17

Breaking Addiction Is Socially Unacceptable 15:55

Finding Peace from Mind 17:41

Happiness Is Peace in Motion 19:50

The Closer You Are to the Truth, the More Silent You Become Inside 22:17

Groups Search for Consensus, Individuals Search for Truth 23:32

The Path to Peace Is Truth 25:37

Transcript: http://nav.al/happiness

So let's talk about why we're doing this podcast.

This really is a discussion of highly practical philosophy.

Philosophy as we normally think of it is impractical.

It's something that's put up on a pedestal.

It's something that was written a long time ago in fancy language, very abstract, very obtuse, and perhaps some of it feels like truisms to us and some of it feels unapproachable.

But really, for anyone, if you live long enough, you become a philosopher because you start trying to solve the big problems in your life.

They're the ones that we've been trying to solve since the beginning.

So what this podcast is about is the practical philosophy that we have confirmed for ourselves and that has worked for us.

If this person learned something interesting that made them happier, healthier or wealthier then I can do it too.

It's the practical philosophy of health, wealth and happiness.

It seems to me if you were going to sum it up in 1 word it would just be health.

Financial health, mental health, physical health.

So let us get to the state of health in our finances so we're not fearful day to day and that's where we started and we spent a lot of time on that.

Let's get to the place in physical health where we're not suffering from afflictions, disease and addictions.

And let's get to the state of mental health, where we're relatively at peace and quite content with ourselves.

Even though you can certainly achieve happiness and mental health without financial health, the truth is in modern society, most of us understand that financial wealth can give us freedom, it can give us time, it can give us peace.

You're not gonna buy your way to happiness, but you will buy your way out of common causes of unhappiness.

In olden times, 1 of the routes to finding peace was you would become a monk.

You would renounce things, You would renounce sex, you would renounce money, you would renounce shelter, you would renounce attachments, and you would go off in the woods.

And after 30 years, when you'd finally gotten over the fact that you weren't gonna have these things, then you might find some peace.

And the truth is, most of them probably never got over it.

Lots of monks out there, not a lot of enlightened people.

I think it was Osho, he said, every time I meet a prostitute, she wants to talk about God.

And every time I meet a priest, he wants to talk about sex.

Whatever it is that you deny yourself will become your new prison.

If you have a desire for material comfort, it's actually gonna be easier and faster to fulfill it in modern society if you know what you're doing and are capable, then it will be for you to renounce it.

It'll take a lifetime to renounce it and maybe then it won't work, but you can make some money and be materially successful in less than a lifetime.

You can get there without it and probably have a more lasting form without it, but that's playing on hard mode.

Physical health, of course, is the foundation of everything.

If you don't have your physical health, you have nothing.

Another great Confucius saying that I liked was that a sick man only wants 1 thing.

When you're sick, when you're down, all your other desires run away.

Without the ability to get up and function, you can't turn into this desiring machine that you are.

Physical health is actually the most important, but I speak the least in that topic because I have the least specific and unique knowledge.

I'm in okay health, okay shape, and I'm in an okay diet.

I understand a lot of the theory of it, but I would feel fraudulent giving you that theory unless I were a paragon of excellence in that domain.

Whereas I think in wealth I'm much more self-actualized.

And on the peace side I've gone from being a mostly unhappy person to being a very happy person and that I think was deliberate, it was practiced, it was effort-based, it was through realizations and I made progress, so I have a chance to tell you what worked for me.

It means completely different things to different people and it's difficult to talk about because everybody has strong preconceived notions of what happiness is and how they would get to it.

I'm going to conflate happiness and pleasure and peace and joy and bliss, I'm gonna mix them up.

I'm not doing so deliberately, but at the same time, this is not math, we cannot clearly bound these words.

They mean different things in different contexts to different people.

So let's just try and get into the spirit of what I'm saying rather than get hung up on specific words and details.

When some people are talking about happiness, they're really talking about pleasure thrills, like I had a really good meal, therefore I'm happy.

Other people are talking about a general state of contentment and well-being.

Other people are referring to enlightenment like a Buddha would have reached.

Many people will take the point of view that there's no such thing as happiness or happiness is counterproductive or misery comes from pursuing happiness.

And there's a lot of truth to this and we'll get into it.

But at the same time, sometimes I'll say the way to be happy is X and people will say, well, didn't you just say that happiness is a cause of misery?

If you read 50 different poems from a poet and then you try to map them out analytically and refer words from 1 poem to another and see if that made sense, you missed the point.

Ponder the overall thought process and message.

The first step towards increasing the level of happiness in your life is realizing that you can.

This is where a lot of people get tripped up.

For the vast majority of people, some amount of their happiness.

In fact, probably a lot more than they think is in their control.

So the first step is not easy and you might be stuck on this for a long time and many people are where they deep down believe that happiness cannot be developed or changed and so they devalue it.

They say, well, I don't want to be happy.

Genetics may account for half or more than half of things like strength, athletic performance and intelligence, but your genetic set point is only about half of it.

And happiness or general contentment is much more malleable than the other things.

It's very hard for me to change my athletic performance purely through working out.

I'm gonna be genetically much more limited, but I think in terms of my mood and temperament and my outlook on life, am I a peaceful person or not?

So happiness is a skill like nutrition and fitness.

It is a skill that you identify and develop until you get better and better at it and it slowly gives you results.

It is not something that is God given to you and you're stuck.

Although if you start with a high setting, then by all means, keep it.

It is a skill that can be learned and developed.

Desire is a contract you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want.

You start becoming disturbed because you want something and then you work really hard to get that thing and you're miserable in the meantime.

And then when you get that thing, you actually revert to the state you were in before you had that thing.

It's not like you get to some blissful peak level that you stay on.

There's a delusion that there's something out there that will make me happy and fulfilled forever.

We can talk later about enlightenment, and that does seem to head in that direction of a permanent solution, but we're not gonna explore that just yet.

We're just talking about common sense happiness.

There's no single permanent solution to it.

Rather, it is a process of understanding.

It is a process of training yourself and seeing certain truths.

If obtaining things were to permanently make us happy, then the caveman would have been miserable and we should all be deliriously happy right now.

So obviously net happiness per person is not going up.

Modernity probably brings more unhappiness than past times.

So happiness is returning to that state where nothing is missing in this moment.

A common complaint where I'm from, where I'm surrounded by lots of smart overachievers, is that happiness is for stupid people or happiness is for lazy people.

A lot of times entrepreneurs will say, I don't want to be happy because I want to be successful.

If I'm too happy, perhaps I will lose my desire and I will no longer work hard and I will no longer be successful.

And like everything else, there is some truth to this.

Generally, the more intelligent you are, the more you can see behind the facade of everyday life being easy or safe.

You can see all the risks and the downsides and the calamities that await us.

You can see the cynicism and the manipulation behind so many things that are portrayed as being good for you or good for society.

You naturally become cynical and you signal your intelligence through cynicism.

Very smart people will often communicate in purely cynical observations.

It's okay to not want to be happy, but we're gonna explore together whether you can increase your happiness level without significantly lowering your drive and without significantly lowering your intellect.

So let's take the first 1, which is, I'm not happy because I'm smart.

You are unhappy partially because you know too much.

But that doesn't mean that you can't undo it and retain your intelligence.

You're not smart because you're unhappy, so don't get it backwards.

But yes, you're unhappy because you're smart.

It means that it's going to take more work for you to be happy.

But the good news is smart people are good at figuring out the truth.

And it turns out the more you dig into certain deep truths, the naturally freer and more peaceful you will become and that peace will itself lead to happiness.

If you're so smart, why aren't you happy?

The beauty in being mentally high functioning in our society is that you can trade it for almost anything.

If you're smart, you can figure out how to be healthy within your genetic constraints.

If you're smart, you can figure out how to be wealthy within your local environmental constraints.

If you're smart, you can figure out how to be happy within your biological constraints.

But your biological constraints are a lot larger than you might think.

For people who have ever gotten drunk, been on psychedelics, meditated deeply, experienced altered states of mind through breathing and hypnotic techniques, they turn into versions of themselves that are much happier for brief periods of time.

Now, some of this is a fake pleasure-driven happiness, of course, but there's some truth to it as well, or you wouldn't desire that state.

So in a sense, it can show you the dynamic range that you have as a human, the ability that you have to go into certain states where you're happier is actually quite large.

So how do you nudge yourself in that direction on a perpetual basis, as opposed to just visiting there by essentially stunning your mind into submission and silence.

Besides I'm too smart for it, the other objection is I don't want it to lower my productivity.

I don't wanna have less desire, less work ethic.

The more happy you are, the more content and peaceful you are, thus less likely you want to run out there and change the world.

But at the same time, being unhappy is very inefficient.

The peaceful person doesn't have extraneous thoughts going through their head.

If you are a driven unhappy person, your mind will be on 24-7.

You're much more likely to react, become angry, and dig yourself into a hole that you then have to dig yourself out of.

Your decisions are going to be emotional and impetuous.

You're much more likely to be in the busy trap where you're busy all the time, running from 1 thing to another because you can't mentally prioritize.

You don't have peace of mind so when it comes time to make judgments, you have too many threads going through your head and you don't have time to devote to making those judgments.

If you become the Buddha tomorrow, it's unlikely you'll also launch rockets to the moon like Elon Musk.

But on the other hand, there are enough successful optimistic leaders, scientists and innovators, especially as they get older, that you see it's not necessarily the case that happy people have to be ineffective.

As I became much happier in my life, I actually became much more effective.

I was able to form relationships with people that earlier in my life I would have kept at a distance, whatever preconceived notion.

I can make decisions much more clearly now because of see what the long-term outcome is going to be.

I don't try and negotiate an extra 20% here or there because I know that that's gonna make me unhappy long-term.

It's gonna make the other person unhappy and it'll make the deal less stable.

So I've actually been more productive even though I've worked less hard because I've made better decisions.

In the modern age, the quality of the decision you make is everything because we're all leveraged.

You can be leveraged through code, community, media, capital, labor, etc.

If you're a smart person, every decision you make these days, you're leveraging it in some way.

And so the quality of your decision making is more important than anything else.

If Warren Buffett makes the right decision 85% of the time and his competitors make it right 65 or 70% of the time, Buffett's going to win everything.

That's the source of his strength, good decision making.

Most of the time he's sitting around reading books, thinking hard, reading S1s, playing bridge, traveling, golfing, etc.

Good decision-making and high leverage is a solution.

Having a peaceful mind, being a happier person, relying less on momentary pleasure and being calmer in general will allow you to have the frame of mind where you make better decisions and will actually increase your effectiveness.

As long as the increase in effectiveness is higher than the reduction in drive, you're well off.

Finally, I would say, do you want to be the best in the world by working the hardest?

Or do you want to be the best in the world who worked the least for it, right?

Who worked the most intelligently for it?

If you were an omniscient omnipotent being, imagine you were the universal God for a moment.

Then just by pushing a butterfly in 1 direction or just by snapping your fingers, you would know exactly how the particles would collide from there on out.

That would change everything in the universe.

Through pure knowledge, we can achieve happiness and that happiness will actually increase our decision-making capability.

It'll make us more knowledgeable about how we and other people operate.

It will increase our judgment, and it should increase our earnings and the returns that we need to be financially free.

In some very deep level, all pleasure creates its own offsetting pain and fear of loss on the other side.

I had a tweet recently where it said, in an age of abundance, pursuing pleasure for its own sake creates addiction.

I was upgrading an old Miyamoto Musashi line, do not pursue pleasure for its own sake.

In his time, when you pursued pleasure, it might mean a very different thing.

He didn't have internet pornography, marijuana or alcohol available on demand.

Now that we're in age of abundance, if we pursue pleasurable things directly for their own sake, we land into addiction very easily, which is hard to get out of.

I think the modern struggle is really about lone individuals disconnected from their tribe, disconnected from their religions, disconnected from their cultural networks, trying to stand up to all these things that have been weaponized, alcohol, drugs, pornography, processed foods, news media, internet, social media, video games.

With these things, you can basically engage in fake play and fake work.

Before, you would have to go socialize with your friends, now you just get drunk with a bunch of strangers and it's easy and good.

Before, you would have had to go find a mate and have sex and create children, raise a family.

Before you might have needed to go climb trees and hunt and get fruit for a little bit of natural sweetness.

Now you can just buy all the gelato that you want.

The modern struggle not only is trying to stand up to these things that are weaponized, that are giving you small doses of pleasure, but desensitizing you and exposing you to the misery of their loss and their absence.

If you drink alcohol, or if you take some kind of drug regularly, try the following thought experiment.

I will bet you there are the events where you get to do these things.

So if you drink alcohol, you look forward to dinner time or you look forward to that party that's coming up when you get to go out with your friends to the bar.

To see how artificial it is, resolve the next 1 you go to, you're not going to drink at all, or you're not going to do the drug.

And now ask yourself, how much am I looking forward to that event?

If I give up these sources of artificial pleasure that can lead to addiction and desensitize me or just bring misery down on me later by missing them, then I'm miserable because I don't get to socialize with anybody, I don't have fun, I don't go out.

Breaking addictions is very hard, not just because you have to break the physical addiction, but because you then also have to change your lifestyle to the lifestyle that you would be happy without that substance.

For example, if I want to drink because I get to hang out with friends and be social, and I do that enough, and pretty soon I'm hanging out with a whole bunch of friends that I actually would not hang out with sober.

Well, if I stop drinking, then what happens?

I have to find brand new activities and brand new friends.

This is very hard and very socially unacceptable.

These fake relationships and these fake activities were just being held together by the alcohol.

I realized a while back that it's actually a problem to really look forward to holidays and to weekends because it indicates 2 things.

1 is it takes the joy out of the everyday, because now you're living in the future, you're suffering the rest of the time.

And seconds, it means you have accepted a way of life in which most of your time is spent suffering.

Let's talk about peace, and then we'll talk about truth and how these all relate to happiness.

A lot of times when I'm saying you want to be happy, what I'm actually saying is you want to find peace.

We say peace of mind, but what we really want is peace from mind.

The moments of greatest pleasure, whether from doing a drug or having an orgasm, or you're kite surfing and you find the edge, or you're laughing with somebody, or you're looking at some incredible sunset.

What happens in all of these is the mind goes quiet.

That voice in your head, where you're talking to yourself goes silent for a moment.

And then you go into a sense of awe or beauty or bliss or joy or pleasure.

Deep down, what we're actually looking for is peace from our mind.

I'm not making the mind out to be an enemy.

The mind is a very useful tool, but somewhere along the way, it became an uncontrollable tool.

It became a master rather than just a servant.

Our mind is evolved to be paranoid, fearful, and angry.

We are the most paranoid and angry creatures to ever walk this earth.

Human beings are apex predators at the top of the food chain.

We killed, subjugated, or domesticated every other species on this planet.

And we did it through fear and violence and of course cooperation, but we've killed everything else.

We were scared enough to go fight it, kill it, and own it.

Turn on any nature documentary and you'll see A eats B, B eats C, C eats D, D eats E and nature is red in tooth and claw.

Yes, it still makes sense to be careful and to be paranoid.

It still makes sense occasionally to get angry, but not all the time.

Modern society is safer and more peaceful.

The threat level is not as high as our genes think it is.

If you were walking through the woods a thousand years ago with a friend and you thought you heard a tiger rustling in the bushes.

Let's say 9 out of 10 times it's a rabbit, 1 of 10 times it's a tiger.

Well, the person who's an optimist catches a rabbit 9 out of 10 times, it gets eaten the 10th.

The person who's a pessimist stays alive every time.

Pessimism is rewarded in our evolved nature, but we live in much safer times.

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