Love can make you do crazy things, but don’t ignore the signs. We’ve heard and seen it all so we are diving in to talk about different experiences while dating. Any crazy experiences or questions for us? Send us a message https://anchor.fm/kay-jen/message

Hey y'all, welcome back to another episode.

Episode 5 is going to be on all of our crazy stories or our crazier stories in regards to relationships, whether it's things we've done or that I guess guys have done for us.

So we just wanted to elaborate on that and share some of our experiences.

Hopefully it can be something you guys can learn from so that y'all don't have to run into the same issues.

So we're titling it crazy in love or just plain crazy.

And just like Jen said, like, we're just gonna be piggybacking.

Hopefully you guys can find it entertaining or just, you know, just to hear our crazy experiences, or just to learn from what we've gone through.

Judgment and only like being honest about, you know, you only learn from your experiences, whether they're good or bad.

So yeah, so Kayla, I guess my first question would be, have you ever done anything, and asked yourself, why did I do that?

But you look back and you're like, why the heck did I do that?

Yeah, so, excuse me, um, I would say like sophomore year in college, definitely I was talking to this 1 guy and we were in actually we were dating so we're just talking but still like in a relationship does not call for crazy you know like just the loser loser wits and lose your common sense So this guy didn't have a car.

And that's rule number 1, like now, 6 years later, you know, since being out of college, well, since sophomore year, it's, it'll be 4 years this May, but like years, years and years later, looking back, I'm just like, why did I, first of all, why did I even talk to a guy without a car?

And second of all, I let him drive my car.

So we had me and Jen volunteer, we were in, you know, your little social clubs, school clubs, volunteering.

We were, we were like well-rounded in college.

So again, ladies, like, hello, it's like, I got all this and messing with this bum.

Like, I mean, hopefully he's doing well now, but I mean, but then I just didn't have any kind of sense that I did, but I didn't use it.

So we were volunteering, we had to go to this volunteer event and not put his business out there but I mean like I said he didn't have a car so me and B and me I'm like oh just take my car um drop us off at our event pick us back up well he was on the little a little bit on the rough side So like I didn't know this guy was gonna pull a grand theft auto, leave with the car, never come back, never see him again.

I don't think, you know, I feel like my judgment of character was, you know, a little good where I can at least know down to my heart that he wouldn't do that.

But there was that slight chance that he might would have ran off with the car.

Yeah, because he was gonna like pick us up and he was taking a while or something.

Yeah, and he was like the, what's the word, like the, the grand top person of like, not picking up the phone or like not answering the text and then reply that hours later like, oh, I was something came up or I got into an accident like some BS story he would always say and like definitely not knocking that but that was it was always like a lot like and I can I can tell when people are lying so it's always like some BS excuse like of why he couldn't pick up the phone or some lame excuse of what happened so I would say like being in a relationship like just letting someone like live off of you or like use your car or like you know I don't mind if you're going through like a tough situation we're in a relationship and your car is in the shop and you have to we have to share 1 car for a little bit that's totally fine like I'm not knocking you know helping out my partner but in this case he didn't even have a car so yeah I think he did at least have a license?

Like, why did I even put myself in that situation?

Because she was just riding, you know, in the taxi, like, okay, you know, like all innocent.

It was a big changer to me, and I always kind of got like, I never really approved of any of the dudes you talked to.

Remember that guy that would wear your Uggs?

I've been, I've been delivered since then.

Like I, I used to talk to some, I used to talk to some crazy guys, like, but you know, you living, learning college, you do some wild things.

I know, like, check out my new, I'm just like, dude, take my shoes off and delete that picture.

But, um, yeah, so that's definitely like, a thing I will look back on and ask myself like, why did I do that?

I've talked to very select type of guy now, very, you know, sophisticated and or like a cool guy, but definitely a guy that has like their stuff together, like basics, car, job, can provide, knows what they're looking for, like, Goals for sure.

Those are definitely the, just the basics.

So have you ever done anything to get an ex back?

Well, I think my, 1 of my first relationships that I did it 5 years with me, I think has been broken up with me.

My first year's relationship was quote unquote serious because we were so immature, but he wasn't okay with me going away to college and I was still trying to make it work my whole freshman year.

It made college a little whack for me the first year because I wasn't going out or anything like that.

Or if I did, I, I feel paranoid about it.

But I remember 1 time he broke up with me and I was in college and I couldn't, I didn't have my car in school because like the first year you're not allowed or something.

Weird policy, unless you had like some exception.

I forget, but we I wasn't able to get a car at school so it's not like, oh well let me just show up at his house and see him.

From his text messages and I was over there going crazy.

My first year in college, when I should have been like epic and just- Cardi-M.

Or had fun with my friends and do things to distract me.

Cause there were definitely things to do.

And I decided to make him a freaking box and it had like a love letter.

I handmade the box And I wrote a letter and I put like some of his favorite gummies and I put a bunch of random things because you would have to pay for how heavy the envelope was or the box was.

At the time I could barely get like $20 every 2 weeks.

And back then, like I was like huge sacrifice, but I made this guy, it took like a day to create the box and like write everything up and then forward it to the school post office because I didn't have nowhere to get to.

But he ended up like unblocking me and like somehow he picked me up I think on a weekend when I was in college instead of me turning up there it was ridiculous but

I think yeah he got it because that's the reason why he reached back out to me.

I'm kind of like mad that I invested so much time.

Um, yeah, we can do some crazy things or just, you know, like things that we think is love and, you know, just saying crazy.

So maybe like for my my simple that was just crazy.

Like, and I guess I feel like these like your example.

it's not crazy, crazy, But like, a time is a lot back then when you were in college, like, that sounds a little ridiculous, not crazy.

I think I was because he was like my first love

I think it was pretty, we dated for 5 years and I was trying so hard to make a relationship work.

Him being in a different city and me in college, like, with a bunch of temptations going on.

Yeah, my number 1 factor is you put me out on the spot and it just kind of like make me see that it's more to it than just going back to my hometown and seeing him.

Um, so anything or any, do you have any stories where, like you were talking to a guy or a guy was like, so not necessarily like, what, something that you did but like has a guy ever that you've been talking to or dealing with, getting to know, whatever, done anything that was like crazy or absurd?

I can think of 1 right off the bat, and I don't know if it's crazy, not trying to be like.

I just personally I don't think I would anymore just because of all the differences but I was talking to this white dude.

It was just before I even went to college.

I was probably like 19 and He was like 28 and he was like everybody's like rush at work.

And I mean, I would look at him and so when he ended up, you know, approaching me about it and he asked me like, oh, it's on a date and stuff.

And like I was getting like some red flags because he wouldn't like randomly mess with me.

Yeah, I was like, it almost feels like he was

Yeah, so a random day I was eating at a Mexican restaurant with my sister.

I remember really clear and I got this random call, like a 704 number and I answered and it was this female.

And she's like, do you know who X person is?

And then she's like, well, I just want you to know that he's my husband.

And at first, like, I remember being like, I didn't know how to react.

Like, honestly, I didn't not like him enough to be a homewrecker, number 1, I mean I didn't even know about it.

I don't know how to react I was young and dumb, so I just kind of stay quiet to see if she'd answer like keep talking and she's like, I just want you to know that I read y'all's messages and I want you to know that every time he replied to you, he's in the bathroom, like you try to go somewhere away from from me.

And she's like, he has a whole wife and a daughter.

We have a house he's established with us.

He's like, don't waste your time, but we can give him back.

guess is she was on some like cheaters, like you show cheaters, like where they set the guy up and they bring cameras and they bust them.

And it sounds like she's done this before.

And I was like, honestly, I mean, I'm kind of glad, like I was young, but smart enough to be like, no, like I don't care enough to try to prove this guy wrong.

I was going to college for 4 months from then.

But the crazy part is that he knew I knew and he was still like blowing up my phone and he was asking me not to go to college just that I could move in with him

That's because they had like split up and I was like look if they're having problems because of me like it's it's not I felt bad number 1 like there was like a 3 year old in the way and I was like, I didn't know and I didn't feel right and he has he's like almost 30 and I'm barely not even 20 like

Yeah, like, I'm not saying like age difference shouldn't matter but there's definitely like different at 18, 19, you're thinking about maybe school or getting going partying, drinking and stuff.

And he was more like, I'm trying to have a wife, you to cook for me and stuff.

So I was like, I'm not I'm not that girl.

So I told him, I just blocked him because he was trying to, I remember when I went to school, he was still trying to text me and stuff and I was

blocked him and he knew where school I was at and he was like, oh, I can go see you.

You won't roll up in here with your 98 Ford truck.

Yeah, so, Yeah, I mean, I definitely have had some like crazy, I guess like experiences or like answers.

So that's like now my number 1 question, like, are you single?

I'm like, are you single, single, like actually single?

Don't have anybody on the side, not in a situation ship.

Like now in our generation, you have to ask like when you're dating or like going on a date to get to know someone, you have to ask like, are you married?

Cause people will be out here with a whole wife and not wearing their ring.

And then just, you know, portray that, you know, that they're single.

And I honestly like even like if you have a social media stuff, it's so easy to hide your whole life.

Like I'm not very public about me and April, but I don't put him on my Instagram like that.

So it's easy for a guy to like reach out because it looks like, even if he portrays me being single on Instagram, but yeah, I definitely have to make sure that you know who you're talking to, what you're getting yourself into.

I don't think I ever asked, are you married?

I know, and it's crazy like that you have to.

Because people will, like you said, be, have a whole life, be in a whole relationship.

I remember this 1 guy, and this was like a recent story.

He was trying to talk to me like he was trying to holler at me while I was walking my dog.

And it's like he wasn't even trying to holler.

He was just like he started walking my way.

And I'm like, is he trying to like follow me?

Like, is he it was it started getting weird.

So like he was following me, but he wouldn't.

He never said like, hey, how are you doing?

So I was, I kept turning around, me being me.

And so then he went like, he walked towards like the apartment.

So I'm like, okay, he just, maybe he's lost or he's going in the apartment.

So finally I was like, me being me, I'm like, hey, you lost?

Like, or I was like, are you trying to like, hey, how you doing?

I didn't say that, but I was just like, hey, how you doing?

I was just like, yeah, I stay, you know, up there.

And His, so we were, you know, just talking to him, just like, okay, you stay here, whatever.

He's like, yeah, this is my car right here.

So 1 of his red Camaro and his baby mama opens the window from the third floor.

I told him, oh, hey, yeah, this is his new baby right here.

And that was like, look, I said, I don't want no problems.

I say he was over here being weird, trying to holler at me.

I say, you girl says you got it like and she was like, and he got to get kicked out because I guess apparently he was living with her but she was out in the window like holding the newborn baby up to the window.

And I'm just like, yeah, and I said, yeah, you have a good 1 I say you need to handle that.

Like you need to, you know, worry about your situation right there, but we're trying to holler at me but like that's the point Like guys will try to holler at you and then their girl is right upstairs.

And I'm just, I just walked off and I was just like, what is this?

Like she was upset, you know what I mean?

And to her, but I'm just like I mean, I guess she knows what she's dealing with.

Have you ever spent like a lot of money on somebody?

The most, okay, so actually the guy that I, with the car guy, he, I bought him like a outfit and but it was like Nike.

And so it was his birthday and I was like you know oh I want to get him something nice.

I was like I know he likes Nike so I got him like a jumpsuit.

I remember it was like a gray jumpsuit and it was like like a little over $50 and that's to me that's a lot and I don't think I think that's the most I've spent um oh actually I think

that's not that bad but I think I've spent I've spent like a little over $100.

And to me, I gotta like you to spend like over $100, but I really, I really like cared about this person or care about this person.

And I remember sending it to you, you were like, Oh my gosh, that's so nice.

Like, I can send thoughtful gifts like if I really care about you.

So to me that it was nothing like I was over here like adding stuff to the cart.

You said thoughtful gifts like for Emma's birthday you sent that little book with like cookies and stuff.

I guess it might not be worth as much now, or like what I spent then is not like as significant as it is now, but I think it was in 2016, I was gonna graduate in 17, but so I was a junior in in college and it was winter break and I went with my ex to his house.

I was going to visit him and I wanted to get him something nice for Christmas because he always like out outdid his gifts and I did not have the means at all but I ended up buying a pair of off-white Jordans from the GOAT app and I spent $550.

And honestly, like, now, like, if I were to give like my current boyfriend that I mean, that's fine.

Yeah, I mean, yes, like, I don't even know if I have like a big deal in I don't think I had a car payment or student payment or anything like that.

But I was like, my check every 2 weeks was like $300 tops.

So I say, I worked over a month's worth to get him that gift.

And now that I look back, I'm like, why did I do that?

Like, even if at the time, like, he was worth it.

And, you know, like, I thought the love was like, super strong, like, I should have, something in me should have told myself, like, you don't have to mean for it.

Like, you don't have to give this guy 500 over $500 to prove to him that I loved him.

And nowadays, like, it is simple, like guys, I'm realizing like guys and men don't like that.

He wouldn't wear bling bling stuff but he definitely liked nice expensive stuff on the low.

So and It wasn't something I did all the time.

So I was just trying to show appreciation.

I mean, to him, 550 might not be a lot, but to me, it was everything at the time.

So I remember when he was opening it up, I was just so proud of the moment that I was able to do that.

Not because I was so proud to make him happy.

Honestly, probably, I don't know if I'd even met him, but I think that's it.

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