With the hustle and bustle of life coming at you, how do you stay positive? A positive mindset and attitude will take you a long way. Tap in to this episode wrapping up our season 1! Send us a message for new topics! https://anchor.fm/kay-jen/message

And today's topic is going to be on positivity, titled Tips on Living a Positive and Fulfilled Life.

We want to talk about what we do and what we have accomplished by staying positive.

But before we get started, I did want to say hey to my bestie Kayla.

And like Jen said, I'm so excited to be talking about how we stay positive through the hustle and bustle, you know, of this everyday life.

Because, you know, it seems like some weeks are longer and more challenging than others.

But I'm definitely excited to get into the episode.

It's like super gloomy out here in the Shenandoah Valley.

And it's just like 1 of those days where you just kind of want to lay back.

But I did take the day off so that I could do like some chores around the house because you know I'm going to Texas this weekend so I wanted to have that peace of mind that when I come back from my flight like I have a nice clean tidied up home so I'm really glad that I did take this day off so that I could get ahead of the game.

And that is 1 thing like I can say like is a positive way that I, you know, stay motivated is looking forward to a day off.

Like I have actually taken a day off at the end of this month to go to the beach and I haven't been to the beach in like a minute so I'm looking forward to that and that's kind of motivated me to start off my the month of May Just looking forward to a beach trip.

Well, it's Mohawk Beach, it's in Delaware.

So I have a coworker friend that moved up there and she's actually from Delaware.

So I'm gonna go up there and it's near Ocean City, Maryland.

So they have a bunch of like bars and they have a beach up there in a bunch of shops like the tinker outlets, they have like 5 different outlets so we're gonna do some shopping eating and just girl fun hanging out.

Y'all y'all Kayla has not come to visit me since like, I don't know, like 2011.

I know, but she's going to be, I got a place to stay.

I know I have a place to stay with you, but then she's going to expense my mileage.

I don't have to worry about gas, but I'm going to definitely plan something.

I agree though, like thinking about upcoming trips, like you have something to look forward to.

So it helps you kind of have like this positive attitude from Lisa and me, like I knew that I was gonna have this whole week end off because I was going to Texas.

So like, I don't know, it's just like, no matter what was going on, like all the chaos was going on at work, like team members are like just really trying to suck the energy out of me.

Knowing that I have something to look forward to, like definitely helps me keep, makes me stay positive as well.

And I think that's what I've started to implement by just my attitude, like a positive attitude, actually a quote on my wallet where it's like the word stickers and it says, you know, like motivation is the ability to do it, but attitude determines how well you do it.

So like no matter what, that's definitely a tip for staying positive is your attitude, because once you make it up in your mind, like I'm going to have a good day or you just don't let little things that you can't control affect you.

You know, no matter if, you know, somebody says something out of the way, or if, you know, you get some bad news in the middle of the day, or just something unexpected out of your control comes up, if you've already made it up, you know, like in your mind, and if you're like me, like I'm strong willed.

So once I made something up in my mind, I'm like, Nope, I'm sticking to it.

I said, I'm going to have a good day, no matter what.

And it goes back to that first thought, like that I wake up in the morning and I'm like, no matter what, I'm having a good day.

I'm not going to worry about things I can't control.

And then it definitely just makes it easier, you know, when those unexpected challenges come up.

I know that like at work, for example, I try to stay positive when I journal.

I journal and I write things as far as I am grateful for this or I'm having a good day.

I put it on paper so it's like legit so it's like when I write it down like it just like transpires over and I I feel it like I remember 1 day um a couple weeks ago I was like not feeling it like I was like down I was feeling gloomy and I remember like I said let me just journal like maybe 10 minutes before I go to work and I started writing like today I am thankful for this this and this I'm going to have a good day today I am a good leader you know I was kind of like giving me that, like that kind of like, yeah, like I was cheering myself on when I wasn't really feeling it.

But once I wrote it, and then like I saw it and I read it over, like I just told like, I just like took a deep breath and I'm like, it's gonna be okay, I'm gonna have a good day.

And that's the positive attitude that you need to go into.

If you already know that you woke up on the wrong side of the bed, doing stuff like that and can motivate you to have a positive attitude.

And it pays off because if you go into work, like being like a negative Nancy, like, oh, I was running late or I had to do these extra things or whatever it might be, you got stuck in traffic, like, you know, that can kind of like roll over into your workday and then it just becomes like a really long and stressful night.

Rather, if you show up like with a positive attitude and a clear mindset that everything's going to be okay, I just feel like it just pays off.

So I would definitely recommend to anybody that isn't a big fan of journaling or hasn't, it goes a long way and I stand by it.

I don't do it every day, but when I do write, it's just something about it that makes me feel like I did something good.

And somehow, I don't know, I don't have enough information on it, but it's just rewarding to me and it feels it feels good to me to write.

So that would be 1 of my biggest takeaways to start small, definitely journal or like right, you don't have to like say dear diary I did this this and this, you know like positive things that will set you up for the day for sure.

And I was gonna say, um, definitely to hit on what you were saying about, you know, just writing it down, kind of like those small affirmations.

If you're somebody that's on the go, like some mornings, but I don't have time to journal, like I will sit at my desk for a second and read like my morning devotional for the day or journal like quickly at my desk.

But sometimes, you know, I'm like, oh, I don't like grabbing a pen and paper.

I just pull up the notes on my phone and jot a few things down, like that I'm grateful for.

And I, the rule of thumb for me is like my top 3 things because, you know, it's always easy to think of like 3 things and if you're having trouble thinking of like to start all you can just be thankful that you woke up, you know, like some people don't wake up or they you know are sick or you know I always revert back to.

Being healthy like that's my go to if I'm having you know, a trouble thinking of 3 things I'm grateful for, I'm like, well, 1, I woke up this morning.

And 2, I'm healthy and I'm in my right mind.

And then it's easy just to think of 1 like, oh, I'm thankful that, you know, I got myself together this morning.

And like, I was kind of feeling that way this morning.

And 1 of my friends was like, um, he was like, no, we ain't doing this.

Like we're going to have a Friday mindset.

We didn't work hard all week just to be, you know, acting like it's a Monday.

So that instantly changed my mindset, um, to just be like, no Friday attitude, Friday vibes.

It's going to be, you know, the day is going to go how I make it.

Yeah, definitely on what you said about like, just waking up in the morning, like you're winning by just waking up and you have so much to be grateful that you know you have a roof over your head, that you have food on the table, that you woke up, that you're healthy, that you know not a lot of people can say that and we definitely I feel like sometimes we can take that for granted So if you just wake up with that positivity saying like I have this, this and this, like you have so much and you know it's a new day full of opportunities.

You just have to have that mindset like you have to be a go-getter and just be like even if you don't do anything you know just the simple fact that you have a positive day, you feel good about it rather than the whole day just kind of raining down on you.

So I definitely know what that feels like.

And of course, I don't always have good days, like we're all humans.

But if you just exercise, like having that positive mindset, as soon as you wake up, it'll go a long way.

Like for example, well, an example, like if I wake up and I'm sad, like sometimes I do, you know, we're all humans.

And sometimes I do catch myself, or like I'll be going through something and like I might tear up or something.

I do have a mini human that's, you know, always watching me constantly, you know, she, my daughter.

So I have to like, I have to be strong for somebody else.

So even if I want to break down sometimes, she gives me that motivation to stay positive because if not, she'll come and find, even if it's like a sock laying around, she'll come and wipe my tears.

And every time that I catch myself like wanting to cry or whatever, like, and I see her, I'm like, I have to be strong for her.

And she gives me that courage to stay positive.

So I know, Kayla, you don't have a human, so.

But I just wanted to speak for myself that, you know, having a child and you definitely, well, at least personally, I don't want her to see me crying.

So subconsciously, like I convinced myself like, okay, I'm okay, take a deep breath.

And honestly, like having her around helps me because I have to kind of force myself to stay, you know, calm.

So I do think her like I've learned so much from her and definitely learned the positivity around her like, you know, sometimes I don't get any rest or sometimes, you know, I don't get to do what I used to do because, you know, I have her and this whole load of responsibility that sometimes can feel overwhelming.

But, you know, having her being a mom is just like such a good feeling also.

So it's just a matter of, you know, how you want to perceive things and she's all that I have.

So I definitely want to stay positive and all the other stuff I can just scratch off because of the times that I have with her.

And we just hook it off and then I feel a lot better.

But my daughter definitely is 1 of the things that helps me stay positive.

And I'm sure for other parents out there listening, it is super hard.

I know you guys don't want your child to see you upset.

Even if you don't want to, something in you makes you stop the tears.

Let me go cry for 3 seconds in the bathroom and then let me wet my tears.

Like, sometimes you need to do that and that's okay.

Um, but you just need to like be strong and know when to recover.

And I was going to say, I don't have kids yet, but I definitely, you know, excuse me, feel that mother instinct when you can just, you know, you have a motivation, a part of you that's looking up to you.

And, you know, like you said, we're all human.

So it's not like we're saying, oh, you can never have a down day because that's not realistic, you know, but definitely with those down days, you can find little, you know, little gems or jewels to brighten your day.

You know, for you as Emma, for some people, it might be like, for me, it's self-care, you know, like just really taking the time out to implement a self-care after work, you know, putting my phone down for 2 seconds so I can, you know, walk, get some fresh air.

Like I was like, well, I'm gonna treat myself to some Starbucks.

So I'm going to, um, And I'm doing my fast.

So I was like, well, I'm going to treat myself to coffee, you know, so I can, you know, have a little pep at the end of my day.

Those are my motivations or like or rewards for myself.

And yeah, Target can get me in trouble because I go in there and spend like, I know, I'm going there for 1 thing and come out with like 10.

But so I'm definitely having to learn discipline with that.

But definitely, you know, it helps to have that positive mindset, no matter what.

Cause I always think about, you know, someone could have it worse or someone does have it worse.

They would trade, you know, your position in 2 seconds.

Like they wouldn't even think to switch positions and here we are, you know, complaining and being ungrateful and just, it gets you nowhere, like complaining and worrying about what you don't have instead of being grateful, um, can definitely just bring you down and it's not productive.

So, um, you know, I've always heard, you know, if you start to feel down or, you know, try to think about a positive thing, gratitude is definitely the way to do it.

Being positive overall, like whether we realize it or not, can be linked to other good things in your life.

Staying positive can give you that self-confidence, like when you walk into a room and you're like taking up space that like people turn around because of that positive energy that you, you know that you carry, you know, you carry.

And the girl was like, I like your energy already.

She was like, as soon as you walked in, you know, and it was like 10 o'clock in the morning.

So I but I just I was just being me like it was Saturday, I slept in a little bit.

And, you know, just, you know, and I've often heard, you know, people say that I'm a breath of fresh air.

And so, you know, it just it just comes with being me.

And, you know, I don't always have my best days.

But when you do have that positive energy, people feel it.

And, you know, and then they feel it when you have negative energy.

So definitely, you know, have to do an energy check when you're around people and then being around people who pour into you and don't drain your energy.

And that kind of goes into our last episode, you guys should check it out.

You know, with saying no, because you don't want to be around people that drain your energy.

Because then it just, oh my gosh, takes away from your positivity and nobody's happy.

And honestly, I deal with that every single day at work because I have like 80 employees and you know, someone's always upset about something and some people, some employees really I feel like I'm being tested.

Like I just got to like a take a deep breath when I'm like done talking to them because I'm like, they're not gonna suck my energy because you know, I have 79 other employees I have to look for.

And I'm pretty much the face of the department.

So people will really try to like, you know, squeeze the juice, like take all that energy out of you.

And that's when you have to like learn to stay like learn to stay positive, even, you know, something might trigger you, like someone might say something like you just have to train your mind to know, like I'm above this and I won't let this person, you know, make my day turn gray when I started out on a right foot.

Yeah, and some people will try to do that.

Like they'll get, they'll despise your positivity.

Like, I mean, even like coworkers, bosses, or just, you know, like even if you run into someone random in the store and you're, you know, in a good mood and they're not and they feel that and because they're not in a good mood there, they get mad like, how are you mad?

So I'm, you mad because I'm making you feel some type of way with my positive energy, like, no.

And then you can't take it personal just because somebody is having a bad day.

And I read something 1 time where the guy compared it, or I think I heard something, and he compared, you know, like people and when they have a bad, you know, day, or they, you know, push their problems into you, think about it like a dump truck.

Like they are dumping their, you know, all their emotions, their problems into something.

And then they don't have, you know, that outlet or that mindset to be positive or to, you know, release that negativity.

So their truck just keeps filling up and keeps filling up.

So eventually what does a dump truck do when it's full or like a truck?

So you have to think about people like that, like they're all their bad stuff is just spilling out and overflowing and it's nothing personal.

I hadn't heard that 1 before, but yeah, I could picture it and it's so relatable.

And so it makes me, it reminds me like, okay, your dump truck is full.

I'm not going to take it personal and it's not going to affect my good mood because my my truck is full.

Like it's just it makes it reminds me to just like the point you said with not letting other people affect your positivity.

Yeah, but with that I did want to share, like maybe this isn't a topic that you know people think about But if it's something that you are interested in doing, being positive is something that you can't wake up overnight and you just conquered being positive.

Like you have to train your mind to develop a positive attitude because you will be tested.

Like we all know life, you know, will test you.

So you just have to, it's something that you learn.

It's not something that you're gonna, you can't say, okay, I'm gonna be positive and it's gonna happen.

Like it's something that you have to practice and pretty much train your mind to do.

But yeah, I really, like, I really believe this.

But like I said, like, definitely, like having those affirmations, whether you're, you might not even journal it, like, Maybe you put it on a sticky note and put it on your mirror.

After you brush your teeth in the morning, you might tell yourself something like,

tell yourself something like, you know, I am confident I will show up to work today.

Like, tell yourself those positive things

And before you know it, like you are going to be doing what you're saying out loud.

I've been doing that and I feel super weird.

I remember I started doing that like kind of when I started my new job.

And I would say things like, I'm a good leader, I belong in that room.

And I also like, because I'm a minority, and I sometimes honestly can feel like an outcast sometimes, but I'm like, No, I am taking up space, I belong just as much as everybody else does in the room.

And like, I know that I am taking those space 100% which maybe when I first started I didn't but because I felt so like I don't know I just felt like oh like I don't know like I was dealing with like imposter syndrome because I went from 1 job to another and it was like a pretty decent increase in pay and I was like, oh my god, like, did I just get lucky?

Like, did I just did really good on the interview and like it was a whole different process.

But I kept telling like, I started researching and 1 of the things that people were like, I like found was that doing the affirmations help like writing it down and saying it out loud.

Like I would like on my way to work, I would say things like, I, I am a good leader.

And I don't know if it was just like, I mean, it works.

Like you play with your mind and it really works.

I was just also going to add, I forget the teacher's name.

She taught like a marketing class, but she was, I think she was actually like, as she was teaching us, she was going back to her doctorate and she, you know, just always was open and transparent and share with us about her journey and her story of being, you know, like struggling through school and just how she, you know, did those same things, like with affirmations and changing her mindset and attitude and pushing through to get to where she was today.

Yeah, I'm glad you remembered her, but she was so inspiring.

And I don't know, I feel like I should have paid more attention to her as a whole, not just trying to like get a good grade in the class.

But I bring her up because, I don't know if you remember, but I remember 1 day she had us do an assignment where it was like a bunch of books on the table and she was

everybody get a book and I can't remember the name of the book to save my life, but I'm pretty sure like if I try to find it, but it was like a psychology book and I remember like that was the first time that I had ever read anything that had to do with like being positive.

And then yeah, just reading will definitely help with that as well.

So, um, with that being said, um, we are, yeah, just wrapping up this episode.

Um, it definitely helps with the affirmations.

Um, get you get your mindset in the right, you know, path to thinking positive and just doing it.

Like it may feel weird at first, cause I know I definitely agree with you.

When I started doing them, I was like, you know, this is just weird like, but I actually follow a girl Instagram so she does like daily affirmations and so I'll be I'll start reading those like that's just a way to, you know, you can Google a few, and then you can personalize them and get your own So I definitely can vouch for affirmations.

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